So You Just Got Engaged... What Now?

Welcome back everyone!

If you're reading this post, it's more than likely you are recently engaged (CONGRATULATIONS! Isn't it fun??) and I am SO excited for you! This is the time in your life you will never forget, and it's all so exciting. While you most likely know the general things you need to do, looking at the big picture of planning a wedding can be a *bit* intimidating. And trust me, it is. BUT I am here to try to give you a little peace of mind! Here are a few tips on where to start now that you're engaged.


New York City The Met Proposal


This probably seems a bit redundant, and I'm sure I don't need to tell you to share your joy with the world, but get the news out there girlfriend! Make sure you tell your parents, closest friends, and what not before you share to Facebook though, your loved ones will appreciate you thinking of them in this special time. After Laurence and I shared the news of our engagement and finally had some time to breathe after getting back from New York, I sat down with my wedding binder in hand and wrote out the proposal story and a little snippet of how we got around to dating. Once the shock of being engaged and everyone's said their congratulations, it's nice to sit down and relive the most special moment of your life on paper. Another great tool I found out about was The Knot's website- "How He Asked". You can share your entire proposal story, any vendors involved, and just talk about how you met and what brought you here. It's also a great tool to have so you can share with friends and family the full version of the proposal, since, if you're anything like me, it can be a bit exhausting to repeat after a while. You can check ours out here!


2. Insure that Sparkly New Rock!

Chances are you probably can't stop staring at your brand new ring, and for good reason! Your engagement ring is likely to become one of your most prized possessions, and it's completely worth it to take care of it. When my fiance got my ring in New York, he received information from the jeweler on their recommended insurer, and a few weeks after our engagement, we were quick to insure my new ring. There are tons of different insurance companies, policies, and levels of insurance, and you should definitely research to find out the kind of coverage you are looking for! Our jeweler recommended Gemshield, and I chose to get a policy that I paid one fee upfront for the whole year and will cover any damages, repairs, or, God forbid, loss of the ring with no deductible. After I got back the official paperwork, I felt so much more peace of mind about the ring. It's easily the most expensive piece of jewelry I own, and I feel so much better knowing I'm covered should anything happen to it (even though I am extremely careful with it as is!) Of course, some renters' insurance policies cover fine jewelry, so check any existing policies to make sure you have a way of covering it!


3. Grab Yourself a Wedding Planning Binder or Notebook, You're Gonna Need It!

Let me just tell you right now, even if you think you know how to plan an event, a wedding is a whole other beast. There are so many little details that you will forget about or not even realize when you get started, and having a physical way to keep track of the important stuff is so important! I use the Kate Spade New York wedding planner as my physical planner for the big information, and The Knot app for all the in between details! I'm very much an "on-the-go" person, so for me, using The Knot's app while I'm out and on the go is so convenient, but having the binder to keep inspiration pictures, vendor information, and other details is great to bring along with me to vendor meetings and just to have a physical version of my cluttered brain! Plus, it will make such a cool keepsake once you're married to look back at all of your planning process.

Savannah Wedding Planning by Fleeting Elegance


4. Start Gathering Ideas, Inspiration, and More!

One of the best parts of getting engaged is finally being able to plan that Pinterest perfect wedding you've always dreamed of! If you're anything like me, you've had ideas forming in your head since well before you were old enough to date, and the thought of getting to have your fairytale wedding is so exciting. Trust me, I'm jumping up and down with you! If you haven't been already, get on Pinterest, start up a board, and get to pinning. There are SO many different directions you could go in for your big day, so it's good to just start out with the basics and pin what you like. After you feel like you've exhausted your resources, go back into your pins and start scanning for a common theme. Maybe you like metallic accents, or peonies, or sunflowers- start forming your theme from there and make decisions based on what you feel reflects you and your fiance best. Another great resource is wedding magazines! I have a monthly subscription to Brides magazine that I won from a bridal show, and I've picked up a few others as I see them. They are so worth the investment, and you can actually cut images out that fit your vision and put them in your binder to bring along to vendor meetings! This all might sound overwhelming, and sometimes your nights may look similar to the image above, but don't worry, it will all be worth it in the end.


5. Decide Who's on Your Team/Squad/Tribe/Cult (??)

Last but not least, you're going to want to have a strong group of friends by your side throughout this process. Whatever you choose to call them (I personally went with "Bride's Babes"). your bridal party is going to be your rock when it comes to keeping you sane and on track for wedding planning. I'm so thrilled to have seven of the best girls there are standing by my side, and I honestly don't know what I would do without them! When you go to ask them, have fun with it! Add in some personality and make it special- these girls are going to be going through a lot for you, so make sure you let them know you are appreciative. (See future blog post for "proposal" inspiration)

Getting engaged is such a special time in your life, so enjoy it! There will definitely be ups and downs, but take the time to soak in all the fun that comes with it, and before you know it, you'll be on your way to forever with the love of your life.

Amy Lynn Parmar